Being in love and being in a relationship are two different things. Love is about setting free, about understanding that comes automatically, not through agreements. A relationship is about contracts. About COME, DONT COME, GO, DONT GO, DONT DO,DO, ME, YOU. Its about calculated actions, expectations, about the mechanical love you before the phone call ends, about 'how could yous', and 'why did yous', about presents and make up and obligations. About red, love less roses, about silent cards that say nothing, about give and take, about empty messages in the night, about meaningless talking for hours, about opening doors, about letting the lady enter first, about waiting for hours, about smiling a slow smile at the end of the wait, about frantic phone calls wen you dont know wat happened to him or her...
Love is about knowing his reactions, understanding him, catching his thoughts. Its wen even his silence makes sense. Its wen touches become meaningful. Its about doing things, thinking thoughts and feeling emotions that comfort him, as if by default. Its when your outstretched hand is clasped and the clasp changes your life. And 'your' here means both your lives together. A relationship status can change. With love; you re either in it or out.
Week kneed reactions often thought of as love are just the initial spark. Then comes the relationship part. Most relationships fizzle out. Just a matter of time. Love is almost timeless. After years you realise you still worry for him wen he is not back home at 9, or when you spot him coughing hard... When he cant move you become his legs, When you are down with an ache he makes hot water bags.With years of life together behind the two of you, when 'you' just doesn't mean you alone anymore...
That moment, my lady, you re in love.
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