I've always wanted to have kids, french teenagers make me want to rethink that decision. They've
made me ask myself if I can be a good role model to my child. And if I
can't be one I might as well not put one miserable version of me on the
face of this earth, I've done enough damage all by myself.
I get so emotionally worked up when I think of these things. I will be making such an irreversible mistake if I don't give my child the best of all I have. Hopefully, I will be financially stable to be able to provide my child with any material thing she might need but anybody could do that! I should be able to make a home where she grows up to be someone of good nature, good taste , good morals and a reasonable sense of loyalty. I should be someone my child looks up to, some she wants to be like when it is her time to live her life.
Dear me at child bearing age,
I'm writing this letter to you and putting it here so you will read this when the time is right. First of all, congratulations on finally deciding to have a baby! I am proud of you. I hope this decision was made after lots of thought and discussion; and not in some hasty moment of weakness or pressure from whomever. Always remember it is YOUR womb and YOUR body and you have the right to decide when you want a baby and when you don't.
Remember all the people/teenagers you've taught till now? Remember some of them you saw in France? Remember how they had no qualms screaming in class, calling people names or being agressive with one another? Remember how they didn't take a second to think about the poor kid they were bullying? Remember how they thought it was ok to be rude and bitchy and so ill mannered? Remember how much anguish you felt for your future kid everytime you saw them? NOW is the time you can and should do something about it. Before you have a baby, you make sure you know how to handle him, how to guide her, how to engage her and how to teach him. This little human you're in charge of, he will probably be a replica of you, remember he's almost plain sheet of paper the first time you hold him in your hands, but every second that follows that instant he is your responsibilty, he is looking at you, he is watching you, imitating you and learning from you by being you. So always be your best, always be kind, always be good, always be true and always always listen. And not just when she is with you but also when she isn't. Becasue children are young, they aren't stupid; they know when you put up a facade.
The times when you do something wrong, explain and he will listen, he will understand. Tell him what happened and why you shouldn't have done what you just did in front of him. When he has questions about delicate things, try and break it down for him as much as possible, never never ignore his enthusiasm. Say no to him when he is being demanding and be firm. He needs to understand what he is allowed to do and what he can't do.
Spend time with her, tell her about your day and never ever forget she is learning from you always.
Give her all my love.
Lots of love and kisses
22 year old me
I get so emotionally worked up when I think of these things. I will be making such an irreversible mistake if I don't give my child the best of all I have. Hopefully, I will be financially stable to be able to provide my child with any material thing she might need but anybody could do that! I should be able to make a home where she grows up to be someone of good nature, good taste , good morals and a reasonable sense of loyalty. I should be someone my child looks up to, some she wants to be like when it is her time to live her life.
Dear me at child bearing age,
I'm writing this letter to you and putting it here so you will read this when the time is right. First of all, congratulations on finally deciding to have a baby! I am proud of you. I hope this decision was made after lots of thought and discussion; and not in some hasty moment of weakness or pressure from whomever. Always remember it is YOUR womb and YOUR body and you have the right to decide when you want a baby and when you don't.
Remember all the people/teenagers you've taught till now? Remember some of them you saw in France? Remember how they had no qualms screaming in class, calling people names or being agressive with one another? Remember how they didn't take a second to think about the poor kid they were bullying? Remember how they thought it was ok to be rude and bitchy and so ill mannered? Remember how much anguish you felt for your future kid everytime you saw them? NOW is the time you can and should do something about it. Before you have a baby, you make sure you know how to handle him, how to guide her, how to engage her and how to teach him. This little human you're in charge of, he will probably be a replica of you, remember he's almost plain sheet of paper the first time you hold him in your hands, but every second that follows that instant he is your responsibilty, he is looking at you, he is watching you, imitating you and learning from you by being you. So always be your best, always be kind, always be good, always be true and always always listen. And not just when she is with you but also when she isn't. Becasue children are young, they aren't stupid; they know when you put up a facade.
The times when you do something wrong, explain and he will listen, he will understand. Tell him what happened and why you shouldn't have done what you just did in front of him. When he has questions about delicate things, try and break it down for him as much as possible, never never ignore his enthusiasm. Say no to him when he is being demanding and be firm. He needs to understand what he is allowed to do and what he can't do.
Spend time with her, tell her about your day and never ever forget she is learning from you always.
Give her all my love.
Lots of love and kisses
22 year old me
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